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CahracterDesign smallGive my child a break.

Social pressures are nothing new. Everyone remembers uncomfortable moments, classes that wouldn’t end, and environments that made us want to disappear. School days were packed full of the good, the bad, and the ugly. When the school bell rang, it shook the weight of worry from our shoulders.

There was something relaxing and peaceful about walking out of the social drama and into a controlled, family environment. At home, we knew what to expect. And even though the social interaction didn’t completely stop, it was escapable. If we didn’t want to play basketball with friends, we didn’t. If we wanted to ride our bikes, we did. The social pressures in the school versus the social pressures in the neighborhood were entirely different. There was an escape from it. There was a rest from it.

Recently, I realized my child never gets to experience a break from social pressures. There’s no rest. There’s no pause from one conversation before he engages in another – because he’s engaged in several conversations at once – all day, every day! That alone is exhausting. Day after day, his mind is engaged, constantly navigating through social pressures. He wakes up in the morning and begins texting. He texts until his head hits the pillow. It makes me tired just thinking about it.

My child needs a break.

As intelligent as he is, he won’t turn off his phone until his body forces him into sleep. The last text he sends is “good night.”

We haven’t worried about his phone use because he is a good kid. His conversations are okay.  But as good as he is, he is more capable of making poor choices when he is mentally exhausted and socially drained. Constant social interaction can overwhelm kids, even the good kids.

I LOVE being around people. But, I’m exhausted after spending a lot of time with my friends. I can’t imagine how tired I would be if I never got a chance to rest alone, away from my friends, my bosses, or my acquaintances. We need a break. We need a rest from social interaction. Our kids need it, too.

So, since my highly intelligent kid will not put his own phone away, we have decided to help him. We are giving our child rest. We are giving him a break from social pressures.

At 6:30pm every night, phones are put away. Think of all the things that we can do! Think of all the conversations we will have! Think of the rest we will have! What seemed like a big deal the night before will be put in its proper perspective in the morning. What was once an addiction will be a tool to communicate.

Brilliant ideas are not always celebrated by teenagers, of course.  We expect grumbling to continue for a long time. But, the mornings are worth it! Our child is rested and happy. He is grateful when he gets to have his phone. It’s better for us grownups, too. I enjoyed reading to my youngest. One night we made cookies. It’s amazing how much time we gained by giving ourselves a break from the world of digital social interaction.

Give yourself a break and rest.

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I am so amazed that life grows inside of us!!  I really can’t even wrap my brain around how amazing that is!  God could take the dirt again and breath life into every new person, but he lets us be involved in the birth of new life!  WOW!!  And girls, it’s US that get to enjoy that miracle!

I remember when I was pregnant…with every flip of that tiny baby, I imagined God’s hands forming that little miracle.  It was easy to constantly dwell on the miracles of God because I was physically aware of his wondrous works!

And that’s just the drum roll!!  Just wait until you have that miracle in your arms!!

Nine months of preparation can not prepare us for what is ahead.  The love that moves through our hearts is indescribable.  When you first lay eyes on that baby, something takes over your entire being.

Maybe God  involves us in the process of life so we can grasp a tiny bit better how much He loves us.

He rejoices over us with singing!  Imagine, God of the universe, completely engrossed in love for you.  Crazy.  He is our father, our mother, our everything.

Every time I shoot a maternity, I celebrate the miracle of life!  I’m so thankful to be a mother of two precious children!!

As a wedding photographer, it is fabulous to see our brides and grooms begin their families.   Happiness just compounds!!

Now, I’m celebrating my assistant’s pregnancy (soon to make an appearance on our blog) and my sweet friend and wedding coordinator, Nealy (images in this post).  Nealy is having TWINS!! We can’t wait to meet her baby girls!!!

 

Children are a gift from the Lord Psalm 127:3-5

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We shot Mandi and Michael’s wedding several years ago.  Ever since, we have just loved having them as friends!!

Now, they the parents of a beautiful baby girl, Shelbi Jo.

Tucker is the proud big brother.

Love you, guys!!  I’m SO HAPPY for you!!!!

 

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